Kelsbels- Hun. God, my DS went through those stages all the time (and with the bath too!) and still does, it's just soooooo much easier now because you can reason with a 3 yr old (and distract them).
When my DS was younger he would scream and would want to be rocked to sleep, or to get up. I stayed strong and stayed in there with him and he had a seahorse that played music, i put that on and stroke his face and he would usually fall asleep. I found talking to him helped give him something else to focus on as well as his favourite toy the seahorsey who went to bed with him everytime ......and he did sleep with that, it was his safe comfort thing.
Does she have a fav musical toy that plays for a long time? Maybe you could try a comfort thing???
GL, hope i didn't confuse you xx