you've got some great suggestions there, i think explaining that its best to ask first before doing things to other people (hugs, kisses etc) is the way to go, very simple and easy to understand...

i can see logic in your stance of one rule etc, and whats not okay for adults isn't okay for kids, and i guess i agree in theory, but at the same time (and this is just my opinion) i also fall into the category of 'they are only kids once' and i don't place too high expectations on them to understand (to them) complex social boundaries.... of course i will always tell her whats nice and whats not nice, and 'no we don't do that' etc etc.... but for me, i DO think kids can do things that wouldn't be very acceptable for adults to do.... ie dd is often walking around with her hand down her nappy, something that is soooo not socially acceptable to do, but she is at the age where she is exploring, so while i don't like it and don't necessarily encourage it, i don't ask her not to do it either... maybe when she's 2 i'll draw the line there!! the same goes with so many things, like her throwing the sand out the sandpit, i don't like it and i ask her not to do it, but at the end of the day she's having a ball, she's only a baby so i deal with it, where as if she was 3 or 4 then i wouldn't find it as acceptable...

for me i think my levels of acceptance to certain behaviours definitely change to accommodate what developmental stage she is at.... but i've been lucky as she really isn't doing anything that i don't like... oh except her fingers in her mouth all the time, but again, its part of being a baby and while i don't like it, i ignore it as i know its a phase and it will go away.

i guess i've turned out to be a more relaxed mummy than i ever thought i would be, as for most things i can be uptight and controlling, but i guess i've changed my stance on a lot of things to do with dd as time goes on i think you learn more and adapt with how you deal with things and become less rigid perhaps...

the joys of parenting!!! It definitely has to be one of the hardest jobs as what works with one child doesn’t work with the other!

the joys of parenting....