i was PETRIFIED when my DH had to go back to work night shift and i had to look after my 3 girls alone......PETRIFIED i tell you. Now, 5 months on, i reckon i could handle another (he, he,he).....i think when your routine is thrown a bit out of whack (i.e newborn) then it becomes a bit scary, but once that routine gets nestled back into place, it kinda takes the thinking out of it....
There are some days when Sam is screaming on her play mat, wanting to be cuddled, DD#1 is screaming from the toilet that she wants her bum wiped, and DD#2 wants a drink, and wants it now that i think 'someone help me', but then there are days when they all giggle under the blanket together, or something as simple as that, and you realise why your there !!!!
Honestly some days I just don't know!!! I have a 4yo and a 20 month old ATM (as well as a 13yo DD) and it's still quite challenging. My 4yo will often make it hard to settle my toddler... I'll juuuuuust be lying my little one down in the cot and then BAM! in will walk my 4yo and say "I want to watch Thomas the tank Engine!!!" and my toddler will wake up and that's that. Gotta start all over again. Or one will be climbing the table while the other is ruining the carpet... what do I try to save? of course the toddler so there has been much more destruction since having more than 1 small child in the house. And then they will occassoinally fight. Oh the joy. This is why (one of many reasons) I waited 9 years to have another... and then another child. I think the reason it's hard though for me is because I have very little help with them. It's more the relentlessness than anything. Of course I love them both. Yes, I agree with 'capacity'. However I have also developed a long term illness which has reduced my capacity. So maybe my experience is worse than it would be if I was healthy.
I have a three year old and a four month old and I have to say it isn't as hard as I feared it would be! You really do adjust and learn to cope. It was hard having a newborn and a toddler who has been an only child for the last 3 years though! It took some working out, but we have a new rhythm and we are all pretty happy
It is hard and sometimes i wonder how i do it but i do. I have a 2yo and a 4 month old. Feeding times are worst esp as DD1 can be jealous but it gets easier every day. I wouldn't change it for the world.
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Gotta start all over again. Or one will be climbing the table while the other is ruining the carpet... what do I try to save? of course the toddler so there has been much more destruction since having more than 1 small child in the house. And then they will occassoinally fight. Oh the joy. This is why (one of many reasons) I waited 9 years to have another... and then another child. I think the reason it's hard though for me is because I have very little help with them. It's more the relentlessness than anything. Of course I love them both. Yes, I agree with 'capacity'. However I have also developed a long term illness which has reduced my capacity. So maybe my experience is worse than it would be if I was healthy.
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