Whilst I agree that positive reinforcement is a great idea, I dunno about the sticker chart for me (on a permanent basis) it would be too much and I wouldn't want them to get into the habit of expecting something in return for good behaviour iykwim? I think in extreme cases it can be quite useful (seen it used before myself) but I don't think it shouldn't be used for all behavioural problems otherwise you could start a problem bigger than the original one, that being they need to be shown they are appreciated through stickers/presents etc. I think verbal appreciation is a great start because its something that you can follow through their whole life. And if you are finding its not working alone maybe adapt the sticker option until the smacking phase seems to be over and then abandon the stickers iykwim. Which I did similarly with Toilet Training, we adapted a similar routine and when she finally got the hang of it we made a big hoo haa out of it and told everyone how proud we were of her in front of her, I think she was more gushy about that than the reward system LOL! I am sure this is what deb meant anyway but just wanted to clarify my thoughts on it 8-[ ! Just my thoughts and deb I would NEVER tell you to shut your pie hole, you have a whole heap of experience under your belt my girl and valuable experience at that!

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Cailin