DS decided he didn't want to sleep in his own cot from 6mths. We ended up at a sleep clinic where we did a version of controlled crying. DH ended up having to settle him. We put DS into the cot and say "sleep time, go to sleep" he'd cry and cry, but it was a case of listening to the crying and when he escalated then go into him and calm him down. Whenever he laid down it was a "Good boy" in a soothing voice. The first night was really bad but by the second night he was getting the hang of it. Now he will sleep in his cot, although he wakes often. I sleep on a mattress on the floor, so I can get to him before he wakes fully (otherwise it takes hours to resettle).
Your not a bad mum - you need a girl's night out (take yourself out to a movie) or go during the day, whatever time it works for your family.
I have no advice but I hope you get to the bottom of it soon, and get some good sleep. You are not a horrible person or a bad mum, look at how upset you are and how you are trying to get help to sort it out, definitely not a bad mama.
Go easy on yourself and try to rest when you can, being pg as well can't be easy
I don't remember going through the exact same thing, but I know when DS was a newborn and I wasn't getting much sleep at all, I would be so cranky I would swear when I went in to his room and I mean nasty swear... I'm a very quiet and calm type person usually.
Honestly, sleep deprivation is like torture, so try not to beat yourself up too much. Sounds like you are doing all the right things. Hope the Paed can help you out xoxo
Of course the new baby is playing on your mind (and stays there thanks to all the well wishers who ask what you will do). You're a great mummy, and I hope you get some much needed rest soon.
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