Hi Willow! It is very hard when bubs won't sleep but I must say that if you are getting 40 minutes out of him then that's a lot longer than I ever got out of my little boy! Haha! I was lucky to get 15 minutes of him... I know it's easy to say (and of course people said it to me too) but try not to beat yourself up about it and relax a bit (haha, yeah right!)... It took a year for my little man to want to sleep (we were feeding every 2 hours for quite a few months!). In the end we had to do the dreded 'controlled crying' thing and although it was horrible, it did work...it wasn't until he was about 9 months old htough of course. Anyway, I just wanted to say that you're not alone and hopefully things will improve sooner rather than later...