OP - I don't actually go to a child health nurse.. see.. more evidence of bad parenting.. lol I was thinking of taking her to a GP though and seeing what they think is the best course of action. We move at the beginning of next year, but we will be staying in one room at my brother's house, so that should be interesting. Probably have to drug everyone.. including me!!

Artechim - thanks

Jakabella - it might work, but usually she wants DH to pat her until she goes to sleep. Whereas, and this is funny, if its ME, she never asks me to pat her, cos I just don't do it, and she knows I won't do it. I find it too distracting for her, but DH does it cos he doesn't want her to scream and wake up DD2.

Mad - so I can totally blame DH for it? And his family? lol

Lilima - argh I dunno. We did try that once before and then DS wanted his own room cos he's the only boy and sick of sharing everything with his sisters. He's at a tough age too - mr know it all at 4.5 years. I'll discuss it with DH and see what we can come up with. Maybe DD2 can camp out in our room for a little bit and DD1 can have the double bed to herself and see if that helps.

Thanks for the suggestions guys, its truly a sucky situation, and I'm so jealous of people that have kids that sleep through, or have been sleeping through. In 4.5 years now, I've had one full night's sleep - some random night when I had 3 kids all of them decided to sleep through. I don't mind getting up for the baby, thats a given, but I feel sorry for DH getting up every night for most of the night (we don't usually get to bed till 11.30pm and he's up at 6) and he's starting to get really grey.. lol