I totally need some help/advice/guidance anything…

[kungfubecca]

My sis had a problem with her dd where she would get up in the middle of the night and just go sit in the kitchen, or go and play somewhere ( little sinister sounding I know.

They ended up putting one of those gates at her bedroom door, so they could get in but she couldn't get out. Don't think it would fix your whole problem, but might be worth a look at.

[C~Q]

My sis had a problem with her dd where she would get up in the middle of the night and just go sit in the kitchen, or go and play somewhere.

LOL, sorry a little OT but, when I used to go to bed and kiss DD goodnight she would never be in her room and I would have to search the house for her, she would be asleep in the bathroom or under the bed, one night I could not find her anywhere till I heard snoring coming from the WIR and she was asleep against the door (which opened inwards) and I couldn't get in! Ended up poking her through the gap till she woke up lol!

So yes, I think maybe a gate over the door is a good idea!