I totally need some help/advice/guidance anything…

[dani141]

I totally need some help/advice/guidance anything…
Jett has no routine and that is my fault but trying to get him to bed at a suitable time is like pulling teeth.
He was fine until he went into the toddler bed and now it is just fun and games. I think I need to get tough, but I am clueless..
If anyone can share their routine or how they keep their tot in bed I would love it.

[Astrolady]

When Kameron moved to a bed, he was forever up and down. We just kept picking him up and putting him back. Some night we would have to do it 20 times before he finally stayed there. We thought he would never settle down and stay in the bed when he was first put to bed, but we persisted and in the end he finally got the hint.

Can you try a bit of bribery.. "if you stay in your bed you will get xxx" like a favourite treat of his or something, then if he can do it for a week or however long you decide then he will get a small present.

Also maybe you could try sitting with him till he does fall asleep and then slowly each night work your way closer to the door.

Love

[widdly]

hi dani,

DS is still in his cot so i don't have any first hand experience but have been wondering how i will tackle the same issue when DS goes into a big bed. Was talking to a friend, mum of 4 who's eldest son went into a big bed at 18 months old, he would constantly get out and go to the lounge room, so they just constantly would wal him back up to his room til he eventually styed there and fell asleep, she said it took a week or so and was very frustrating but in the end he learnt that it was no use getting out of bed cause mum or dad would put him straight back in no matter what or often he did it.

HTH and GL. let us know how you get on.

[Mum0809]

Hi Dani
DSD just turned 4. We have always done, Bath, I read her a story in bed, DH sings her a song, then she goes to sleep. If she gets out she gets in Trouble off DH, but she never gets out I think DH is too scary when he gets mad LOL. There's time when She is sick and then will let her lay on the lounge with one of us until she is settled or asleep. Other then that the routine works well for us and for DSD because she always knows whats next. Good luck

[aussienic]

When my youngest went to a toddler bed at 21 months life went from reasonably calm to stressful!

He also stopped Bf at the same time so we changed our night time routine.. Each night myself or DH would take Jacob outside to say goodnight to the stars and moon and then we would take him to his room. He also has a music light show thing that he helps to turn on (used to go on his cot) and it gets out on the cupboard.. We say goodnight and thats that.. He doesn't come out at all anymore but when he did we would just say go back to bed please. and if he didn't go we would get up and take him.. He used to ask to say night night to the moon again but we said no you only get to do it once.. and we were firm but not harsh when we spoke..

Good luck.. it passes

[Beach Mama]

Hi Dani - i dont have any advice but just wanted to give you this and I hope you find something that works for you two.

[~clover~]

I started out just taking the side off the cot & my daughter had alot of fun running back & forth. I eventually started to sit with her til she went to sleep. I still do, but as long as she has a non spill cup with her, it doesn't take long. When she is older I will do the same as I did with my older daughter & sit her down & talk to her about being a big girl & going to sleep by her self with a night light on & a beby. But still reassure her that mum is in the lounge room. It worked fine for my oldest. She was alot more understanding & advanced & was going to bed by her self when told just after turning 2. This one will have to wait a bit longer yet.

[kungfubecca]

My sis had a problem with her dd where she would get up in the middle of the night and just go sit in the kitchen, or go and play somewhere ( little sinister sounding I know.

They ended up putting one of those gates at her bedroom door, so they could get in but she couldn't get out. Don't think it would fix your whole problem, but might be worth a look at.

[dani141]

Okay, You ladies have inspired me to be tough tonight, I am going to keep putting him back in his no matter how many times I have to do it. It is just hard as Ben is at work and it does get to me sometimes.
Stars - Thanks for the hug I will be needing it after I try this tonight.

[C~Q]

My sis had a problem with her dd where she would get up in the middle of the night and just go sit in the kitchen, or go and play somewhere.

LOL, sorry a little OT but, when I used to go to bed and kiss DD goodnight she would never be in her room and I would have to search the house for her, she would be asleep in the bathroom or under the bed, one night I could not find her anywhere till I heard snoring coming from the WIR and she was asleep against the door (which opened inwards) and I couldn't get in! Ended up poking her through the gap till she woke up lol!

So yes, I think maybe a gate over the door is a good idea!

[Ca Plane Pour Moi]

This is what not to do... when I was little, I told my sister the midnight crocodiles lived under the bed. If she was not in bed, asleep, by midnight the crocodiles would eat her up. Even if her hand was dangling over the edge of her bed they'd eat that. And oh no, it's almost midnight! Got her back into bed quickly enough so I could get to sleep. My poor sister was terrified of the midnight crocodiles for years! (I think I was 8-9, sister was 6-7.)

[C~Q]

OMG Ryn that is sooo mean!!!

[lan]

Hi dani

I totally understand how you're feeling right now..as my baby Jason (6 weeks old) didn't have a routine in the first few weeks...he use to sleep throughout the day, wake up at night or even a combination of both day and night. So i tried many methods but the one that seemed to work most for me is during day time, keep it noisy either by putting some music on, talking loudly beside him, keep the room bright, talk or sing to him, keep him awake etc. Then at night, when his wide awake, i'll turn all lights off...make sure it's really quiet and then i'd cuddle & pat him by my side until his asleep, once he was deap in his sleep...i would put him back in his cot. I kept doing that for a few days regardless of how long i have to stay up at night or whatsoever...and eventually he became use to that routine. So now his awake during day time sleeping only once or twice, and at night time, he'll sleep throughout the night, hence, waking up every 3 hours to feed and then back to sleep again. I hope this would work for you as it did for me! Good luck!

[mickyndan]

Hi Dani,

How are things going? Have you found a routine or anything that works to get your bub to sleep in a big bed?

I don't know what to say except I now have a 2 year old that we are trying to get to sleep in his big bed (since he was about 18 months old) and as last resort we paid a child health nurse to come to our home to show us the correct procedure in doing so. It has been 3 nights and I don't seem to be getting anywhere other than the fact that he hasn't been in our bed for those 3 nights. It is extremely frustrating especially because i have bub number 2 due in 2 weeks so we are desperately trying everything to get him to sleep. He is waking anything upto 6 times a night and we are just constantly taking him back to bed, kicking, screaming, threatening to close the door and then closing the door because he is NOT staying in his bedroom. He then kicks and hits the door but eventually he does go to bed. It is very tiring especially for my husband who has to work during the week but also for me because I am heavily pregnant....

The main thing is to stay calm and be strong (even though I try but it is soooo hard especially when he wants me to continuousy go back for cuddles and kisses - how do you say NO to that)?

I have friends who have children that slept through from 6 weeks of age and it just infuriates me because I am sure I did everything right when my bub was brought home from hospital, he was in a routine etc. but it is obviously who he is and we just have to try and show him another direction.

Good luck and I truly sympathise with you. If you find a technique or routine that works well please let me know, I would love to hear it.

Take care.
Micky xxoo