oh dear - i have a whingy 20mth DD - and I already struggle to cope with her! am hoping and praying she's done with her "terrible twos" (and i am completely in denial that it could possibly go on longer than this, so please don't ruin it for me! :P) by 2.5, because that's what my mum said I did. lol.
Isn't it nice to hear that other mothers are tearing their hair out too?
Nooo... so this is just the beginning?? I have a 19mth DD and sometimes I wonder if she'd ever grow out of it before she turns 21, coz it seems like it gets worse and worse everyday
She demands me from the sun is up till she goes to bed - and by that time I would have already been too tired to do anything. She follows me everywhere including the shower and cries her lungs out if I shut the shower screen. She wants a cuddle when I'm cooking and rolls on the floor crying until I pick her up. She prefers me instead of DH for EVERYTHING which makes it harder. The fun of having a toddler!
So glad that you have psosted this, MJ has been going through the same thing on and off for the lst 6 months.
Its really really frustrating and sometimes i feel like i must have done something terribly wrong to make her turn out like this.
Several times DH has asked who the spolit brat is in our house and when is our lovely girl coming back.
I dont know whether giving her options has created this, or allowing her to request things.
I have started saying NO to anything that starts with "i want", this has created a few issues too, but it is slowly getting better... actually thats not true, is she 'wants water, i am not going deny that, so she has to ask nicely before getting it.
Being very pregnant is not helping me either, some days i feel completely intolerant.
Sorry, so no advice, just wanted to share my experience and from the PP, i am guessing that this is totally normal!
DS1 is almost 3 and ive been pulling my hair out questioning where we went wrong as parents because i cant take him nowhere he doesnt listen then its a screaming match when he doesnt get his own way
ALL DAY EVERYDAY he just whinges/crys over anything, im pretty patient with him too but i just cant bare it anymore id like to be able to take him shopping and stuff WITHOUT the tantrums and the not listening to what hes being asked to do
I thought he was only getting worse with this due to DS2 being born but clearly not because what everyone else has been saying
I feel a little bit better knowing its just not my child, but i really wish he would hurry up and grow out of this its driving me mental and you cant reason with him cause he just doesnt understand yet
just as typing this he went to get cold water bottle out of the fridge and is crying because its too heavy to carry
Sammiejane: i totally understand being very heavily pregnant and they want to run off on you when out shopping OR exspect you to move instantly in a flash for something (considering you cant just jump up and down) also it doesnt make things any easier when your tryin to BF and you have a whingy/nagging child at your feet wanting everything and doesnt want to understand when you say 'wait till im finished feeding ------' nope we want it NOW!
Last edited by mummy of 3 boys; February 2nd, 2011 at 11:36 AM.
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I need to show this to dh. He's convinced ds is like this with me because of breastfeeding still *rollseyes*
Tbh, I started questioning if it was something I'd done too. I'm glad you posted.
It drives me mad, all day long.
I call him pumpkin another pet name and he yells that he's not a pumpkin but a big boy named sam...No, I want a big plate, I don't want that jumper, not that cup, not those socks. I want a ice cream, I want chocolate. Stop talking mummy..... On and on and on...
My dd's fav word is no, it's all we hear all day long. Sometimes she has tanty over something, the wrong cup or food. I ignore her she eventually calms down and eats or drinks.
I've been desperately trying to get a copy of 'Toddler Tactics' at the library, but its always out!
DS has been having massive tanties first thing in the morning. Yesterday he was screaming about wanting honey, so I got some for him and then he freaked out because I put the honey on the spoon and not him. It was seriously like the end of the world had come.
Lately when we're home, I've been taking him into his room and closing the door and either holding him (if he will let me), or just sitting in there with him and telling him he needs to calm down before we go out again and that there is no need for all the tears, in a "firm but kind" voice. If we go back out and he starts again, we go back into his room. I guess I'm trying to teach him some coping skills. I know that the tanties are all about having 'big feelings' they don't know how to deal with, and I'm really trying to show him a way of processing them. Nice in theory, right?! It's kind of been working....
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I have a 19mth DD and sometimes I wonder if she'd ever grow out of it before she turns 21, coz it seems like it gets worse and worse everyday
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