Oh Elly i so hear you my dear! My In Laws live 5 minutes away from us. Ever since Jesse was born MIL has been saying "let me know when you want to go out so i can have Jesse". Firstly, i would NEVER in this world leave Jesse with her unless it was a life and death situation and there was nothing else i could do. After hearing she gave my DH alcohol when he was a baby to settle him, i just dont trust her. Just the way she does things are just so different to me. And not to mension Jesse just screams whenever she comes around anyways (and she tells me its because i never get out.. which is a load of BS!) But every time we saw her it was "when are you going to leave Jesse with me, blah blah blah"... she harped on that for about the first 4 months.. now i think she'd got the message as i take him everywhere i go.

Regarding telling them.. um well i guess thats up to you.. i dont have the guts to.. i just say yeh ok when she'd say it and then never ask her to take him..

But i say dont feel guilty that you have to leave your children with them.. if it doesnt make you feel comfortable DONT do it. I say always listen to your instincts.. if it has to be that one day i have to tell MIL that i dont feel comfortable, then so be it.. id rather have to do that then something happen to my little baby.