OKay I may be going out here on a limb but I would say for the first little while of course do not do anything that makes you uncomfortable, but there may be a time (say...labour?) when you need to be confident in the person looking after DS while you are in hospital. So the lead up too... it may be important to have a few hours here or there which it is only DS & whoever it is to be looking after him.

A family day is a fantastic way to introduce them into the way you do things, so they understand that you have a certain way about doing things. But maybe have a shower or go for a quick trip to the shops so they have an opportunity to feel like they are being "helpful".

I would LOVE to have some family around to get to shower on some days, or just say "please take Jovie for a walk in the pram so I can have some special time with Matilda". YKWIM?

I don't mean dumping your children on them for days & missing them, but get used to the idea of having some quality time with one child or the other for an hour or so. Or 20 minutes of you time, they can stay in your house & look after them while you have a bath or something special for you. At the moment I've been trying to get my hair dyed for weeks... still haven't found time where I can dye my hair without a helper...