My doctor thinks DD is abnormal? I'm so worried?!

[Carmen2]

DD saw her doctor for her 6 months visit two days ago. She now weighs 7.8kg. Apparently, she's now in the 75th percentile where she used to be in the 25-50th percentile. At first, the doctor didn't say much about DD... and continued to assess her. Then she noticed that she's still got a little cross-eye. She asked me if they have always been crossed. Well, I know that she gets them mostly when she's tired, or looking at something really close. DD's eczema has been under control but still scratches herself till she bleeds so she can only wear long sleeves and pants in order to protect her from scratching. But of course, her forehead and face sometimes get those scratches because it doesn't seem like she knows that she's scratching herself very painfully leading to bleeding. Also, I mentioned to my doctor that she does some funny movements like moving her legs up and down as if they were really bothering her and also turning her wrists until the skin becomes so red and fragile.

With all that, my doctor said that something is wrong with DD so she insisted that I get a consult with a pediatrician.

Has anyone of you and your babies experience any of these things while your dear one was 6 months old? I feel so lost and don't know what to expect when I go see the pediatrician which is in 1 1/2 months.... SIGH

[Cricket]

Sweetie, I don't know what to say about your DD, exactly, but I wanted to offer a and a listening ear. It's good that your doctor is taking the time to get you referred, rather than just brushing your concerns off. I have heard of other babies with crossed eyes, and they just outgrow it. Here's hoping the rest is also easily fixed!

[LimeSlice]

Hi carmen
I'm sorry to hear that you're a little scared
I don't think it could hurt if the docotr looks at her, at least then you can put your mind at rest.
I have crossed eyes, when I was born it was so far in you could barely see my left iris at all! I had several operations as a baby, all of which did pretty much nothing, and I have been wearing glasses since I was 11months old. And there isnothing wrong with that! it's pretty cool actually! lol I was terrified that Charlotte would have the same eye problems, but she is fine...and she does cross her eyes sometimes and her legs never stop moving and jolting...hmm...let me know how you go!

So try not to stress, even though you have to wait so long to see the doctor.
Alexis

[MantaRay]

Carmen, I'm going to move this to baby and toddler general discussion.

The thing with GPs is that they don't specialise in babies. Some are definitely better than others, but there is so much they don't know as they just can't know everything about everyone. So usually if they come across something which they are not familiar with, they will refer you to a specialist. This doesn't mean anything is necessarily wrong, it's just a precaution, as they'd hate to miss a real problem. I would wait until you see the paed before you start worrying, there could well be no problem at all. And TBH, I think mummy's instincts are usually pretty good in this area, if you didn't think anything was wrong before he said that, then I think that says a lot. So many times we get all worried after a comment from a GP or MCHN even though there is nothing wrong at all.

Hang in there hun, big hugs to you.

[Carmen2]

MantaRay, Thanks for moving my thread... sorry for posting in the wrong section.

You are right about the mother's instincts. TBH, I really don't know if I should trust mine anymore. I think being a first time mommy has a big impact because I am learning everything. At the same time, when something goes wrong, I tend to overstressed and not look at things from the brighter side.

Things haven't been so smooth for me for the past few weeks. Sigh, because of the ups and downs I get from over worrying, DH and I have been getting into fights almost every once a week. When it gets so bad, I just slam the door and walk away feeling so guilty but boy, I have to admit, slamming that door did give me a little vent.

At the same time, my MIL has been calling and giving me heaps of pressure for not wanting to fly back to Asia to see them... DD is 6 1/2 months old now and is safe for flying... but I live in Canada and my in laws live in Thailand so flying back there would be a 26 hours trip including transit time. To me, that's a lot of hassles because I can definitely imagine how fussy DD would get on a plane (she's already one fussy baby at home, imagine on the plane where I have no where to hide with her crying). Also, I would have to carry many glass bottles with me since I don't have access washing them on the plane nor do I feel safe washing them in the airport bathrooms or airplane's sink. DH has been feeling guilty of us not wanting to bring DD back so you can only imagine how crappy I must feel as his wife.

Thirdly, there's been a virus in Asia causing the deaths of several babies/young infants.

Also forgot to mention, Canada's summer is in the high 20 celsius and in Thailand, we're talking about 40 degrees celsius. DD has eczema, and I don't think that drastic temperature change would be such a great idea!

WIth all that said, I have basically felt the need to delay our plan to fly back this summer.

I discussed this going back issue with DH and he's pretty neutral (on the outside) but I can tell that he really would like us going back to see his parents... so, I haven't really been bringing up this issue since, but my MIL is still calling us every week asking us when we will be flying back!

SOrry for this tremendously long vent... this is the only place where I could really pour it all out and not thinking what others would feel....

Carmen, I'm going to move this to baby and toddler general discussion.

The thing with GPs is that they don't specialise in babies. Some are definitely better than others, but there is so much they don't know as they just can't know everything about everyone. So usually if they come across something which they are not familiar with, they will refer you to a specialist. This doesn't mean anything is necessarily wrong, it's just a precaution, as they'd hate to miss a real problem. I would wait until you see the paed before you start worrying, there could well be no problem at all. And TBH, I think mummy's instincts are usually pretty good in this area, if you didn't think anything was wrong before he said that, then I think that says a lot. So many times we get all worried after a comment from a GP or MCHN even though there is nothing wrong at all.

Hang in there hun, big hugs to you.

[LimeSlice]

Carmen, its not good having family spread all overis it? My IL's are in New Zealand, and my family is all on the other side of the country! Which is obviously nothing like flying for 26 hours, but it is a big long expensive trip....especially with a young one.

Maybe you could bring his parents out to see you in canada? then they could see DD and you can not have to carry bubs all across the otherside of the world?

As for the fights with DF, I think that it is a massive task to adjust to life with a child at all, and then life with a baby is a lot of work, physically and emotionally. It is natural tht with little sleep, high stress and general day to day concerns that you two are going to butt heads. It will settle down though I think just about everyone goes through it in some way. So hang in there, slam some more doors and stand your ground with the IL's! You have to do what you think is best for DD and not be pressured into things you don't wat to do .

And when there are no more doors left to slam - there is always us!!


TC Alexis