MantaRay, Thanks for moving my thread... sorry for posting in the wrong section.

You are right about the mother's instincts. TBH, I really don't know if I should trust mine anymore. I think being a first time mommy has a big impact because I am learning everything. At the same time, when something goes wrong, I tend to overstressed and not look at things from the brighter side.

Things haven't been so smooth for me for the past few weeks. Sigh, because of the ups and downs I get from over worrying, DH and I have been getting into fights almost every once a week. When it gets so bad, I just slam the door and walk away feeling so guilty but boy, I have to admit, slamming that door did give me a little vent.

At the same time, my MIL has been calling and giving me heaps of pressure for not wanting to fly back to Asia to see them... DD is 6 1/2 months old now and is safe for flying... but I live in Canada and my in laws live in Thailand so flying back there would be a 26 hours trip including transit time. To me, that's a lot of hassles because I can definitely imagine how fussy DD would get on a plane (she's already one fussy baby at home, imagine on the plane where I have no where to hide with her crying). Also, I would have to carry many glass bottles with me since I don't have access washing them on the plane nor do I feel safe washing them in the airport bathrooms or airplane's sink. DH has been feeling guilty of us not wanting to bring DD back so you can only imagine how crappy I must feel as his wife.

Thirdly, there's been a virus in Asia causing the deaths of several babies/young infants.

Also forgot to mention, Canada's summer is in the high 20 celsius and in Thailand, we're talking about 40 degrees celsius. DD has eczema, and I don't think that drastic temperature change would be such a great idea!

WIth all that said, I have basically felt the need to delay our plan to fly back this summer.

I discussed this going back issue with DH and he's pretty neutral (on the outside) but I can tell that he really would like us going back to see his parents... so, I haven't really been bringing up this issue since, but my MIL is still calling us every week asking us when we will be flying back!

SOrry for this tremendously long vent... this is the only place where I could really pour it all out and not thinking what others would feel....


Carmen, I'm going to move this to baby and toddler general discussion.

The thing with GPs is that they don't specialise in babies. Some are definitely better than others, but there is so much they don't know as they just can't know everything about everyone. So usually if they come across something which they are not familiar with, they will refer you to a specialist. This doesn't mean anything is necessarily wrong, it's just a precaution, as they'd hate to miss a real problem. I would wait until you see the paed before you start worrying, there could well be no problem at all. And TBH, I think mummy's instincts are usually pretty good in this area, if you didn't think anything was wrong before he said that, then I think that says a lot. So many times we get all worried after a comment from a GP or MCHN even though there is nothing wrong at all.

Hang in there hun, big hugs to you.