My girl and her bits

[Mother Goose]

My miss is bad for this. Doesn't insert anything but plays when she's tired or watching telly. She is a real Miss Priss though so I tell her young ladies don't do that and she stops.

[~Saram~]

lol really don't have a problem with her touching herself, exploring or even mastabation if she goes that far but we talk about when it's appropriate. for example, in the bath I ignore it. If she is going to sleep, I generally won't mention it if she is being gentle or just a quiet hands out of our pants (mainly cause she fell asleep one night like that lol) but we will tell her it's not something we do around others.

The bath in tea tree oil has helped a lot - she has lost that 'dirty kid smell' iykwim. We have cut out soap again as well back to just bi carb or water. Haven't got around to the worming yet but will do. It was good to hear her the other day stop herself and say don't want to make my vagina angry and she gave it a pat lol. Funnily enough she asked to have a look in the mirror again when she got out of the bath so I think that has satisfied her curiousity a lot and she doesn't feel the need to go poking around as much. I did mention to her though that we don't show anyone else our vagina. She is the type of girl who likes to share her discoveries

So thanks all!!!!

[Ozziehoffy]

It was good to hear her the other day stop herself and say don't want to make my vagina angry and she gave it a pat lol. Funnily enough she asked to have a look in the mirror again when she got out of the bath so I think that has satisfied her curiousity a lot and she doesn't feel the need to go poking around as much. I did mention to her though that we don't show anyone else our vagina. She is the type of girl who likes to share her discoveries

Awww bless her, the little pat - too cute. Maybe she was checking it wasn't angry anymore.

Ya know, my cousin I remember was only probably 18 months or so and if my aunty was holding her (and sometimes on the floor too lol) would bounce/rub on her hip lol... was with nappy on... and I remember my mum saying something but I think my aunty at that stage just ignored it so as not to make a big deal out of something and also my cousin was quite young. It's probably just more obvious when girls do these things for 2 reasons... one, we're used to seeing guys "adjust" (even though some of them really could do it a little less obviously than they do!) and 2 it's harder for a girl to "disguise" it I guess if that makes sense?

Anyway, good progress Ari! Oh and lol on sharing... yes I get you there! Oskar was caught more than once with another little boy "comparing" and showing each other lol cos Oskar asked me how come his penis doesn't pop out the same as the other little boy... I said cos he has played with his a lot more lol... which is the truth! This kid ALWAYS has his hand on it!

[Gigi]

EVERYONE HAS A BOTTOM is an excellent storybook, which covers the issue of bodies and privacy.

I've talked to bilby about it's ok to touch herself, but in private. ANd that girl bits are very delicate, so gentle touch is needed and no sharp fingernails. I think i would be beside myself if she wanted to put things in her vagina.

bilby had a form of "nappy rash" the last few years, ever since she was toilet trained really (at 27 months old). GP told me it's to do with her not being wiped enough, after peeing. So i've had to continually "have a word" with all her childcare workers about this, as i think they assumed "oh she's tt-d, so i don't need to wipe her", which is not the case, she really needed them to wipe her, and to at LEAST check after she had had a try herself. Her ability to understand the bodily sensations of needing to go, and getting herself to the toilet - were very different from her having the motor skills to do wiping back and front.

we have been using organic bodycare products and very basic (like goat's milk) soap all her life, so didn't need to cut out harsh chemical laden bodycare products. her clothes are washed in Aware Sensitive and her skincare stuff is organic too (e.g sunscreen). i have known young girls for whom the culprit was the bubblebath (with sls in it). the acid/akaline balance of the vagina is a sensitive thang. which is why "feminine douches" are apparently such a worry. i wonder who buys those, i see them stocked on the supermarket or chemist shelf, but have never met anyone who uses them or buys them.

[CrazyLady]

The bath in tea tree oil has helped a lot - she has lost that 'dirty kid smell' iykwim.

Would lavendar oil work? Tea tree reacts with mine and DD's skin badly and DD has had nasty red bits that she was scratching today. they look all welty and such. She has had a few spots from the bath lately because of the water changing so I think it's made her itchy.

I'm glad your DD is at an understanding Saram. It's so gorgeous she didn't want to make her vagina angry.

[LimeSlice]

Yes, lavender, tea tree or eucalyptus will work - they are all anti-fungal and anti-bacterial