Thank you Janie I am just second guessing everything that I am doing because I don't know if it is the right thing. And also because people are saying what I should be doing. I know you are right and I shouldn't listen to them but it is just so hard. I thought everything was going ok but people would put other thoughts in my head and I think this is where we are going wrong now because when he is unsettled I have these little voices in my head (no I am not crazy........ok maybe I am!) where I think of all the things that other people are saying to me so I try that and it isn't working. I guess I should go back to what I think and see how that goes.