I'm sorry things are so tough for you. My children have all been terrible sleepers. And I didn't cope with the sleep deprivation or being a mum to a new born, well either. I don't have any magic advice, other than maybe you need to try to stop stressing so much, and trying to 'fix' him. To me, he sounds like a normal baby. Well for the way my children were as newby's anyway. It sounds like you're doing lots to help yourself and bub, and you're being proactive about finding new ways to cope and help him, which is great.

I got pretty obsessed with how much (or little!) sleep I got too, end have ended up with PND after each pregnancy, which I almost totally put down to being so sleep deprived it wasn't funny, and not having any help other than hubby (who is wonderful, but works full time!) It's really hard not to think about it all the time, when all it feels like you're doing is settling, feeding and putting baby to bed all day and night.

Maybe rather than focusing on bub sleeping, focus on other things you need/like. Maybe if you can, and if hubby will take bub, go out of the house without bub for an hour or so (since you can't sleep if you're near him!), maybe go for a walk or visit a friend/relative, so that you're relaxing and having some time without worrying about everything for a little bit. The constant stress and worry could be part of the whole problem for both of you.

And I am another who will tell you, things do get batter, and way easier to cope with. You kind of get used to functioning on less sleep, and baby will settle more as he gets bigger. Hang in there.