Obsession with sleep - when will it end?

[kelsbels]

I had (have?) a bad sleeper too and also became completely obsessed. My big issue was making her sleep to a routine and in her cot at all times.

I now have a child who sleeps through every night BUT despises her cot and hates going to bed

I think you have to do what you need to do to get sleep and then deal with the consequences later! They are constantly changing their habits, you can never get one step ahead!

I can absolutely assure you that you are not the only one! I am promising myself I will do things differently with this baby but bets are on, I will still obsess!!!

[willow5]

I think you're doing a great job! Don't worry about the books and people with "shoulds" You keep doing what is working for you and feels right. Offer the feed as first option for as long as you and your bub want, why not? A cat napper is a cat napper you haven't made him like that he just is. The books don't take into account that all babies are actually different. The same as all adults are different. Not everyone has the same sleep patterns. Not everyone needs the same amount of sleep. Just like some people eat more than others or have different taste to others. All babies are different, it's just logical really.
You're doing great keep up the good work

Also my DS1 was a terrible sleeper, I let him sleep on the lounge through the day, just so he slept. He dropped a day sleep completely at about 12 months. He would only go to sleep on me until about 12-18months. He slept with me in my bed every night until he was 2, then most nights until he was 3. Everyone told me he would never sleep on his own he would be too dependant etc etc. Well I'm happy to report he is now 20 and sleeps just fine on his own and is a very happy healthy independent person. ...He did start sleeping on his own when he was much younger than 20 though About 4yrs he only ever got into my bed if he was sick or scared.

[Emma09]

I used to also bounce my baby to sleep
I used to push her in the pram for day sleeps.
"everyone" told me I was making a rod for my own back- but guess what?
One day I put my DD in the cot and she self settled.
I think every baby is different and as a parent, we do whatever works for us.
My DD self settled at night from about 6 months.
Day sleeps from about 8 months- and now at 21 months- we're back to square 1 with the day sleeps.
Long, rambling post- but my point is- you are doing a GREAT job!