Obsession with sleep - when will it end?

[willow5]

I think you're doing a great job! Don't worry about the books and people with "shoulds" You keep doing what is working for you and feels right. Offer the feed as first option for as long as you and your bub want, why not? A cat napper is a cat napper you haven't made him like that he just is. The books don't take into account that all babies are actually different. The same as all adults are different. Not everyone has the same sleep patterns. Not everyone needs the same amount of sleep. Just like some people eat more than others or have different taste to others. All babies are different, it's just logical really.
You're doing great keep up the good work

Also my DS1 was a terrible sleeper, I let him sleep on the lounge through the day, just so he slept. He dropped a day sleep completely at about 12 months. He would only go to sleep on me until about 12-18months. He slept with me in my bed every night until he was 2, then most nights until he was 3. Everyone told me he would never sleep on his own he would be too dependant etc etc. Well I'm happy to report he is now 20 and sleeps just fine on his own and is a very happy healthy independent person. ...He did start sleeping on his own when he was much younger than 20 though About 4yrs he only ever got into my bed if he was sick or scared.