I am feeling like a completely incompetent parent. DS went into a toddler bed a few weeks ago at 20 months and it still takes up to 2 hours to get him to go to sleep

It's an awful 2 hours of him constantly kicking off his covers and climbing out of bed, him thinking it's hilarious. He will sometimes get things from around the room but most of the time it's trying to climb all over me or get my attention. I try and stay calm and constantly put him back in bed but it's the same thing him getting more stubborn and rough.

I am ashamed to admit but I have yelled a few times at the hour and a half mark through pure frustration and exhaustion.

He has been dummy free for about 2 months and I believe he finds it harder to wind down enough to go to sleep.

He hates when you try and cuddle him because he doesn't like being "confined"

Please help me come up with a method of getting him to sleep a bit quicker.

Between him And his non sleep and 1st tri exhaustion I am going to bed as soon as he is asleep. It would be nice to get half an hour with my hubby at least once in a while.