I know how you feel, my DS was like this and it was hard enough having just him let alone an older DD! I'm gonna say reflux too, that's what DS had and after a week on medicine he was great! I found that bouncing DS on my knee really helped and being on his tummy upright on me too. If your bub does this I think that she likely has silent reflux! Have you got a bouncer? That's useful to getting them off to sleep, the bouncing somehow helps with the burning if that makes sense? We let DS sleep in our pram during the day because he could sleep upright, he loved it!
With the dummy, maybe try offering the dummy straight from boob when she's sleepy (when she's done feeding obviously) - she might be less likely to notice the difference in it and gradually get used to it enough to take it when she's awake?
I really, really hope you get some sleep soon. You are doing a fantastic job, take some deep breaths and remind yourself!
Oh gosh, I feel like we are the same person only 2 months ago for me.
My DS1 is 2 and DS2 is 3 months old now. At the beginning I found it really hard to deal with both of them and really it does get easier. We still have problems now, but mainly with my 2yr old. He is waking 3 times a night and wanting to get into our bed, so I have to drag myself out of bed and put him back in his. Or try to wake DH if the lil guy is having a feed.
DS1 still does watch a lot of t.v I have to admit but I think getting out to the park and daycare is great and more than I did when DS2 was 2 weeks old. My toddler goes to daycare 2 days a week and then the next day I don't mind if he watches T.V a lot as it really takes it out of them at DC.
I believe that the carrier would work if DD2 is quite clingy. I think the sling is a great idea. I made myself a hug a bub from using 3 meters of stretch fabric from spotlight and it cost me $20 and I made 2 out of it. I do like the hug a bub for a NB as it keeps them upright and close to your chest so they can feel your heartbeat. Maybe if she has a bit of an unsettled tummy too it may be helpful. Also great for BFeeding on the move, seems to be just in the right possie to feed them.
I have tried using every dummy around for both my kids. With DS1 I found that the Pigeon dummy in the shape of a nipple worked best, It wasn't very long either so he didn't gag on it. I would pop it in while he was in the hug a bub and his head was close to me so he didn't spit it out. I found that you just have to be super persistent with it. Even maybe expressing and giving a bottle may be easier for you and might make her take a dummy as well.
Do you wrap DS2 when you put her down for a sleep or when you have things to do. I found that when I wrapped both my DS's they calmed down so much and DS1 had bad colic and it helped him a lot.
I used a bouncer a lot too. I think the bouncing sensation calms them down too and that they both slept in there quite happily.
Well Hun just a few ideas you can think about.
You are doing great!!!!!! I was/am still dealing with the situation you are in, though DS2 is soooo much more settled than DS1 was.
I have been down a bit lately too and yelling at my toddler non stop.
You just have to think that they're not little forever and you are doing the best you can even when it doesn't feel like it. I am sure there are a lot of mums out there like you and me who are going through the same thing!
Thanks Everyone for replying. I will be trying all these different things that I haven't tried yet
I will def take her to the dr re. Reflux. Will elevating the head of the bassinet help this?
We brought yet another dummy today and so far shes taking to it. it stays that way.
Both girls are quietly laying in the lounge atm which is making a nice break. I have a vibrating bouncer that I've been putting DD2 in so we'll see if that helps in settling her. I've had heaps of offers too of slings. I have a friend who lives close by that is going to lend me one to see how we go.
Re. DD1. I think I just needed to know that this pahse is normal and will pass. In my sleep deprived state I know i'm not htinking all that straight. She's had a massive dinner tonight so hopefully that will keep her tummy full and she'll be settled all night (am I asking too much here )
Thanks again everyone. I really appreciate it. xxx
Yup elevating the head of the bassinette can help with reflux. I put all my babies on their tummies too when they were sleeping, seemed to help settle them, think it was the warmth that did it. Course I don't recommend this because of SIDS, but we have a breathing monitor, so thats why I feel safe in our decision to let them sleep like that.
Oh and DD1 hasn't had a day nap today, so we're hoping she'll sleep all night too.. LOL...
Big hugs hunny, these first few weeks can be very trying. She will feed less as the weeks go on but right now she needs the comfort as the whole world is scary and you are her safe place. She is also building up your supply so she can grow big and strong. You are doing a wonderful job, well done.
That said a clingy baby at any age can drive a woman close to the edge (I say with experience) so some things that worked for me were:
I didn't co-sleep either, apart from when the baby woke at 5am and it was the only way to get him back to sleep. This way I got most of the night to myself.
a musical swing - gave me a few minutes to have some food
a hot water bottle in the cot before I laid him down (removed of course when he went to bed)
handing the baby to my OH whilst I went for a walk/shower/bath or whatever just to have a few minutes to myself.
In 4 weeks time you will be amazed by how different your baby is and how she acts, but in the meantime don't be afraid to ask for help if you need to get away for even an hour or two. With a clear head you will be so much more prepared to cope.
Well, last night went kind of ok. DD2 slept for the first half of the night (and the majority in the capsule out of the car - but hey - she slept!) but was then awake fully or sleeping but VERY VERY unsettled between about 2 and 8am. In that time DD1 was up at least times.
I've got some infacol today so will be trying that out. Shes had a total of about an hours fully settled sleep all day. The rest of the day she has wriggled, screamed, gagged, cryed, whinged. Her little face looks like she is in so much pain but I can't make it better for her. I have been trying different ways of feeding to see if it helps, time in the vibrating bouncer, and lots of time cuddling her upright. Still persisiting with the dummy too. Also warm bathes and showers with me or DH to try and help ease any pain.
I know her screaming is driving me nuts and I can only imagine how everyone else is coping with it. Everytime she starts DH keeps telling me she wants more food. His doing my head in with it too cause he brings her to me for food everytime she starts screaming again. Trying to explain to him is like i'm talking to a brick wall atm. I get so frustrated with him.
Lets see what tonight brings. Think i'm going to have to rope in some friends to help me pack because it's just not going to happen atm I feel.
Well, last night went kind of ok. DD2 slept for the first half of the night (and the majority in the capsule out of the car - but hey - she slept!) but was then awake fully or sleeping but VERY VERY unsettled between about 2 and 8am. In that time DD1 was up at least times.
I've got some infacol today so will be trying that out. Shes had a total of about an hours fully settled sleep all day. The rest of the day she has wriggled, screamed, gagged, cryed, whinged. Her little face looks like she is in so much pain but I can't make it better for her. I have been trying different ways of feeding to see if it helps, time in the vibrating bouncer, and lots of time cuddling her upright. Still persisiting with the dummy too. Also warm bathes and showers with me or DH to try and help ease any pain.
I know her screaming is driving me nuts and I can only imagine how everyone else is coping with it. Everytime she starts DH keeps telling me she wants more food. His doing my head in with it too cause he brings her to me for food everytime she starts screaming again. Trying to explain to him is like i'm talking to a brick wall atm. I get so frustrated with him.
Lets see what tonight brings. Think i'm going to have to rope in some friends to help me pack because it's just not going to happen atm I feel.
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I know how you feel, my DS was like this and it was hard enough having just him let alone an older DD! I'm gonna say reflux too, that's what DS had and after a week on medicine he was great! I found that bouncing DS on my knee really helped and being on his tummy upright on me too. If your bub does this I think that she likely has silent reflux! Have you got a bouncer? That's useful to getting them off to sleep, the bouncing somehow helps with the burning if that makes sense? We let DS sleep in our pram during the day because he could sleep upright, he loved it!
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