Thanks Everyone for replying. I will be trying all these different things that I haven't tried yet
I will def take her to the dr re. Reflux. Will elevating the head of the bassinet help this?
We brought yet another dummy today and so far shes taking to it. it stays that way.
Both girls are quietly laying in the lounge atm which is making a nice break. I have a vibrating bouncer that I've been putting DD2 in so we'll see if that helps in settling her. I've had heaps of offers too of slings. I have a friend who lives close by that is going to lend me one to see how we go.

Re. DD1. I think I just needed to know that this pahse is normal and will pass. In my sleep deprived state I know i'm not htinking all that straight. She's had a massive dinner tonight so hopefully that will keep her tummy full and she'll be settled all night (am I asking too much here )

Thanks again everyone. I really appreciate it. xxx