oh wow i actually feel so so much better. I cannot thank you all enough for taking a few moments out to reply to my thread I had heard of Tizzie Hall, but not Elizabeth Pantly - I'll definitely look into that one. Thank you so much for the advice and support - everyone I know just says "tough love - it's hard, but you gotta let them cry it out it's the only way they'll learn" but it just isn't working for us. He sobbed his little heart out last night and when i couldn't bear it any more and opened his door, his little eyes were all red and puffy and he rushed to me, wrapped his arms around my neck and his legs around my waist and wouldn't let go for anything. I felt so horrible for doing it to him and I vowed never ever again!! I honestly think the psychological effect is way too damaging for the sleep factor. The little love then fell asleep in my arms on the sofa and slept from 10pm til 2am without waking up which is the longest stretch he's done in ages bless his heart. I don't mind co-sleeping when I'M ready to go to bed, but i need him to sleep by himself til at least 2am first!!!
Thank you thank you thank you all for being so lovely. I will definitely look into this no cry sleep thing
xoxoxoxoxo