i know what you mean about missing sleeping with him! I have no problem co sleeping with him - i just need him to sleep in the evening to give me a bit of a break and to let me do my work - I work from home and find myself doing documents at midnight and 2am because sometimes it's the only time I get twenty -forty minutes to myself. It's hard listening to all these mum's whose kids sleep perfectly and have done the "controlled" crying thing but I just can't and Ronin doesn't respond to it. i refuse to do it anymore and I just have to accept that while ROnin's not the kind of kid who can cope with controlled crying, i'm not the kind of mum who can either. I've done a bit of reading on it in the last 24 hours and i haven't liked what i've read - it can be really harmful!!!! I had no idea. Ronin is a very affectionate, cuddly, kissy kind of kid and will always kiss you better if you hurt yourself and cuddle you if you're upset etc and has done for months and he's not even two so i'd rather have a child who is cpnfident,affectionate and considerate (mostly haha)!! hope he can learn to transtion from rem to deep sleep soon though!!