hi there,
i haven't read all the replies but just wanted to say it sounds completely normal... the babies that sleep well that you are comparing him to are a RARITY, not the norm... try to block out all the stories you have heard and all the comparisons, it will only drive you mad... my girl really didnt sleep much during the day no matter what i did, and often would be awake for hours in the night, up until not long ago (she is 8.5 months now)... try to stay calm and relax, i know at the time it feels like it is NEVER going to end, i was where you are and am now on the other side, it does end, i promise, he will start settling and sleeping better and for longer stretches, but it does take a little time.... i promise it will be over in the blink of an eye and u will look back on this time wishing it hadn't gone so fast.... do whatever it is that works for you, i spent weeks and weeks letting my daughter sleep in my arms while i rested on the couch and watched tv, not ideal, but better than her being awake and crying.... have you thought about using a sling - i wish i had of used one more when she was new...

the first few weeks are EXHAUSTING, but gradually your body will get used to the shock of interupted and lack of sleep... try not to count the hours of sleep you have or haven't had... just try to take each day at a time and don't expect to much of him...

our daughter sleeps through probably 8 nights out of 10 now, and if we have a 'bad night', it is usually that she wont settle between 7pm and 10pm, but then once asleep pretty much stays asleep til morning. I thought it would NEVER happen, but it did.... i know it seems like an age away but honestly it will go so quick, just try to enjoy him, he will only be this small and totally dependant for such a short while, now i can barely get a cuddle from my girl, and all those weeks i spent annoyed that i had to hold her while she slept, i'd love to be able to do that again, just once!!

not sure if i have been of any help, but the story sounds so familiar and i spent too much time comparing my girl to all the other babies in my mothers group who were sleeping, it doesn't do any good... i realise now my expectations where to high.... i would make the 6 month mark my 'expectation' for him to sleep though, if it happens earlier then that is a bonus....

hang in there it sounds like u are doing a fabulous job and all the right things, try not to get too stressed i promise you will end up looking back on it and thinking 'ohhh i wish i had relaxed and enjoyed it more' - but its very easy for me to say this now, as i am on the other side, whereas at the time i felt like i was in hell and wasn't coping.

sorry for the essay, i hope maybe something i have said might help a little