this is ridiculous!!!

[briggsy's girl]

I only ever fed DD from one side at a time - she was full from that - supply was ample and if i tried to force the second boob cos it's what i "should" do, i would wake and frustrate her and be a recipe for disaster. sometimes you have to trust that she is doing what she needs to. as long as you remember to swap sides next feed for your own comfort, it will work out. i know it's not what the books say, but you have to do what works for you and your DD - books are a guide, not an absolute!

Do you have DD in your room? my DD wouldn't settle properly in a room by herself - she needed the comfort of us. the smells etc from us. we had a room set up for her but moved her cot in with us after bassinet stage so that we could all sleep. we have low music playing all the time (have had for years so that i can sleep through DH's snoring!) - it seems DD was similar and needed the noise as well. she could sleep through the noise of grand final day with the boys when she was on me, but move into a quiet room and she woke.

As has been mentioned, your poppet is just learning what it's like to be on the outside. Day and night don't mean much to her at all. there is wake time and sleep time. she still needs to be near you a lot of the time to feel safe. it's an instinctual thing. when you are feeling uncertain you reach out to your strength (partner/friends/parents) - she is doing the same - but you're the only strength and safety she knows!

maybe do a bit of reading about safe cosleeping, and in the wee hours of the morning, take yourself off to bed with DD instead of stressing about getting her settled. she may just want to be in with mummy, the same as she was for the nine months before she came out...

Being a new mum isn't easy. No doubt being a new born is damn hard too. you need to work together to find your groove, rather than working at odds to each other. unfortunately for you, she doesn't understand compromise, so it's up to you to compromise on what you think should be happening, and just embrace what is and work out how to work with her needs. it takes a bit, and it can be horrendously exhausting (not to mention damn scary letting go of your own beliefs in what should be happening, and just going with the flow), but in the long run, if you find something that works for the two of you, you'll both be happier