I haven't read other posts (will go back once I get the chance) but...

I lamented to my CHN that I couldn't get DS2 into a routine when other mums in the mums group had one. She told me to write things down over a period of a couple of days or a week. So I started keeping track of when I changed his nappy, BFed, naps, sleeps/waking, playtime etc. Sure enough, just as she had told me I would, we were in a routine. Just not the routine that I read about in books or on the web!

He's still not in a "age recommended" routine, but you know what? it fits in with us and he's a happy, thriving, almost 2 year old!

FWIW, I did the same for DS1 and he's a happy, thriving, almost 17 year old!