Routines have always bored the living daylights out of me. Why would we encourage parents to lock themselves inside rocking a cot? Breaking our backs patting and shushing? Pick up the baby and get out to that coffee with the girls, ABA meeting, walk along the beach. Get some exercise and some fun. Mothering is not meant to be so hard. You are doing great, following your baby's lead. Ultimately, life is a compromise between their needs and our needs, and our lives are richer and more enjoyable for it