Hate to say this, but DS is nearly 5 and I still have to remind him that he shouldn't put his hands down Mama's top.
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Hate to say this, but DS is nearly 5 and I still have to remind him that he shouldn't put his hands down Mama's top.
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Ok, I know you didn't BF but it is impossible for a baby to have an "obsession" as that implies that your little girl is capable of a thought that continually preoccupies or intrudes on her mind.
Your heart is also underneath your left breast, she will still want to snuggle in for warmth and comfort regardless of whether she was BF or not.
Yes its inconvenient when they are showing your boobs to complete strangers but do you honestly think she has the level of understanding that you seem to expect her to have? She is STILL just a baby! I don't expect my 2yo to have a real concept of "boobies out are a no no "
Maybe if you stop focussing on what she is doing and learn to relax a little and just move her hand away without making a big deal or telling her off she might loose interest.
Maybe if you give her "time" with them at a special time of day like nap time or if you have a bath with her and let her look and touch and you explain to her what they are etc when she gets a bit older
I never make a big deal out of my daughter touching my breasts or pulling down my top. If its not convenient I just say to her "I am sure X doesn't want to see mummies breasts, here why don't you play with this for a while" mind you she is also older than your DD so has more concept of what I am saying.
If you react badly to her and make her upset of course she will get clingier and want more snuggles and be closer to you for comfort and that for may mean hands down mummies top.
Nae
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Should maybe add - I have to remind DH that I don't want hands down my top all the time as well. Maybe that's another issue though.
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Try asking her to rub something else - like your tummy or cheek - instead.
And ask her to be gentle with whatever she is doing - oddly enough being gentle is something that takes a long time to learn.
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Ouch! I didn't see this until now.
Ok, I know you didn't BF but it is impossible for a baby to have an "obsession" as that implies that your little girl is capable of a thought that continually preoccupies or intrudes on her mind.
Your heart is also underneath your left breast, she will still want to snuggle in for warmth and comfort regardless of whether she was BF or not.
Yes its inconvenient when they are showing your boobs to complete strangers but do you honestly think she has the level of understanding that you seem to expect her to have? She is STILL just a baby! I don't expect my 2yo to have a real concept of "boobies out are a no no "
Maybe if you stop focussing on what she is doing and learn to relax a little and just move her hand away without making a big deal or telling her off she might loose interest.
Maybe if you give her "time" with them at a special time of day like nap time or if you have a bath with her and let her look and touch and you explain to her what they are etc when she gets a bit older
I never make a big deal out of my daughter touching my breasts or pulling down my top. If its not convenient I just say to her "I am sure X doesn't want to see mummies breasts, here why don't you play with this for a while" mind you she is also older than your DD so has more concept of what I am saying.
If you react badly to her and make her upset of course she will get clingier and want more snuggles and be closer to you for comfort and that for may mean hands down mummies top.
Nae
I don't make a huge fuss, if she is cuddling or sitting on my lap when her hands there then that is fine but its the pinching and biting of them thats the most annoying (maybe i should have made that more clear) and also if i hear ONE more time that she is still a baby i will scream!!!!i KNOW she is a baby but i dont TALK to her like she is a baby! She understands me quite well, most the time when i say "please don't do that" she will stop. But its the being spiteful and continuing to do it thats the problem and usually by then i put her on the floor and i say no to her. Or i get up and walk away.
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Ouch??Ouch! I didn't see this until now.
I don't make a huge fuss, if she is cuddling or sitting on my lap when her hands there then that is fine but its the pinching and biting of them thats the most annoying (maybe i should have made that more clear) and also if i hear ONE more time that she is still a baby i will scream!!!!
OK sorry if I hit a nerve!
Look I think if you honestly believe she is being spiteful and intentionally doing it to hurt you or whatever ... take her to see a MCHN. She is 15 months old?? I do not see how a baby (yes I know I said it again) can deliberately be spiteful ..... sorry I just cannot.
Oh FWIW you do not need to talk to her like a baby, in fact there is nothing I hate more than people talking to babies like they are idiots, but honestly she does NOT have the capacity to be doing things deliberately to cause you harm. She cannot rationalise her actions, she is not plotting against you.
You came in here looking for suggestions and solutions to your daughters "obsession" as you put it and I pointed out a few things like not making a big deal about it... take it however you want.
Nae
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Where did i say she is 'plotting against me'?? When i tell her to be gentle she smacks me, she will scream "No!" and smack me but im suppose to just put that down to she didn't understand what i said to her?? I'm sorry but i like to think that my daughter understands a little bit. Obviously i don't expect her to say sorry or feel bad i just want her to be more gentle and not to hit or bite me.
By me calling it an 'obsession' i was making a joke of it! I apologise again if that didn't come across as that way...
And i asked why she was obsessed i honestly didn't think of it as a comfort thing.. ive never seen it or heard of it..
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