Hi all

Some days I'm at my wits end... My 19 month old DS sleeps great sometimes...he'll sleep 10 hours a night and during the day will sometimes go to sleep almost instantly by himself and sleep for 1.5 hours twice a day. However, sometimes he just screams and screams (not just crying but full on hysterical screaming) for as long as I'll let him (even with me in the room - although we have done controlled crying too). Maybe 50% of nights he'll go down to sleep quietly and the other nights he'll scream for as long as we'll let him again.

I'm so sick of the grandparents saying 'it shouldn't be like this' and 'he should sleep' etc...that isn't helping in the slightest.

We've tried him (quite a few times now) on one day sleep and that doesn't work at all...he will only sleep for 20 minutes maximum and is an absolute terror for the whole day. He just isn't ready for 1 day sleep yet (and it doesn't matter how many times people tell me this, it won't change him).

So, what's the go...am I a bad mother? What am I doing wrong? He's never been a good sleeper since birth and had major reflux and currently has lactose intolerance which has caused tummy pains. Teething does cause problems but I don't think that's his problem for the last 2 days (last week he went down without a problem every day/night). Should I just get over myself and if he has a bad few days just ignore it (haha, easier said than done)??

When we travel he is even worse and won't sleep at all really...it makes me not even want to travel anywhere...something I used to love doing.

Argh! How can I fix this? (we haven't been to sleep school but mostly because he DOES and CAN sleep, it's just that he has these really rough periods in between) Or should I just get over myself...