With DD2 I went more with the flow. We co slept straight away and thankfully meant I we got about 5-6 hrs over night in those early weeks.

I did find though, after awhile (6 months I think) she became very difficult to settle, as I was doing what worked for DD1, which was feed to sleep in the hustle and bustle of the lounge room. I worked out that I needed to try with her what did not work with DD1, which was a quiet, dark room. I found she started to settle quicker, we still fed to sleep, but even then I was finding that she would sometimes push me away. Overall she has been much better at putting herself to sleep than DD1, she just still wakes a bit.

So I just suggest, do what makes life easier to start with, but don't be afraid to try a bit of self settling/less hands on approach if you think both you and bubs are ready I would certainly not force anything though.