Oh I'm so glad DD isn't the only one who does it. Although frustrating to hear this could go on for another few years.

The other day DD asked for a banana to eat. I got her one. Brought it to her. And she went into a tantrum because she didn't want a banana!!!!!! Arghhh somedays I feel like I can't win!

I know she is expressing herself but I guess I was hoping I could help provide her the tools (words) to express what she's feeling rather than automatically breakdown.

I have tried. Even just saying over and over and over and over again that she can ask for help when she can't do something or something goes wrong. Or calmly saying "it's ok if you no longer want a banana you can just tell me so." But it doesn't change.