Oh DD is the same Tan star. She won't ask for help yet she doesn't want to do things by herself. I've wondered if it's because she loves me doing the things for her or she's worried about 'failing'. I talk to her about trying things and that it doesn't matter if she can or can't do something it's very good to try.

Well it sounds like I'm not alone in this which is what I wanted to know. Thanks so much for the responses. Xx