My DD is pretty much the same age as yours (she turned 3 in the week following mother's day) and I am a bit surprised at how much they are stressing at you about it. I would be interested in the accreditation of the assessments that they are completing. I don't know much about pre school assessments, but teachers in classrooms can really only do anecdotal assessments as a way of gathering information but assessments to establish speech issues are carried out by professionals - usually guidance officers in the first instance and then more specific professionals (like speech therapists) if those assessments showed something. I also thought for that kind of assessment, they had to get the parent's permission before performing it. School and CC are probably different, but they are meant to use a fair bit of communication before they start assessing kids unless it is standard assessments that they do on everyone.

I agree with Trill, I would get a referral to a speech therapist if you are concerned. I don't know what is normal for this age group really. My DD talks but she is not clear so that most people can understand her, she mixes up sounds when she pronouces words (so I'm sounds like my) and when we around other people she is incredibly quiet and shy. As for counting, I didn't realise that it was such a big deal that 3 year olds can count. My DD can count to 3, sometimes 4 and then get really mixed up. I never thought it was a cause for concern.

I have been trying to teach DD how to do things for herself when she is not with me - like put on her shoes, take her lid of her lunch box and put it back on again, pack her own bag, tidy up after herself - skills I thought her teachers at school would appreciate her having because I always figured school was for learning to read, write and count. I do read with her at home and we count together for fun, we do many of the same things you do - we do craft, we sing, we dance, read stories, we talk about her toys and the things in books, I get her to retell me about things that we have done today (to work on her story telling and recounting skills) but honestly, I didn't think a lot of that other stuff was that important to be intentionally teaching them. DD knows her colours, but only incidentally. I have never gone out of my way to teach stuff like that because they are so young.

Liviam, your DD sounds fine to me. If her speech is a bit delayed then that would account possibly for all the other things, but it is definitely worth getting the opinion of a speech pathologist. Not that I think there is necessarily anything going on, but for your own peace of mind. I think her motor skills being so well developed is a good sign.

Hang in there with her and just keep doing what you are doing. You sound like you are doing a good job