I had this when DD2 arrived. DD1 was horrid especially when I was feeding. Check out my gallery for an example of what she got up to!!!

I constantly talked to her and told her what I was doing with the baby. When bub needed a feed I told her that I was going to do so and I always gave her a big hugs and kiss before I started. DD1 was not interested in helping with the baby so I had to find out how to entertain her whilst I was tending to bub. I often feed bub and did activities with DD1 at the same time or I used the good old TV.

I also talked to DD1 about which behaviour that I did not like, some times I ignored her too. But when she was really good I went over the top with praise.

I never pushed the new baby onto DD1. If she wanted a cuddle then I let her but I never insisted.

I also tried to find one on one time with DD1 without bub around. I found bath time or bed time to be the best bet.

I also asked visitors to acknoweldge DD1 before the baby. This helped by making her feel important too.

I am heading down the same track again with DD3 due in 3 months and I am dreading this part of bringing home a new baby. DD2 is heaps more clingy to me than DD1 was/is.

Goodluck this is a hard time but it does get better.