My frustration or theirs??????

I hear you!!!! My DD is nearly 21 months old and right now she screams a very high pitched scream if she doesnt get her independant way!!! It is driving me batty!!!!! I feel for her, especially when she cant put to words exactly what it is she wants or wants to do!!!! I try to have patience, and if i take a few breaths i can sit there and go through different things that she might want or i let her have a turn at putting her shirt on, but if we are getting ready and i am late, then i just do it, and she will whinge but she "usually" gets over it after a few seconds.

For myself, i have to keep reminding myself that she is so little, and the world is so big. Sometimes i NEED to stop and smell the roses as they say and take a second to see the world through her eyes and enjoy the fact that she is learning and she wants to experience things!!! And then there are the times when she is just in full tantrum full swing mode and nothing i do or say makes it better. In those times i back away slowly and make sure she isnt in danger and to be honest, i leave her to it. (much to DH's disgust sometimes) DS didnt have tantrums like that, she is my first to really chuck a wobbly and i really dont know of any other way