I felt like this too when we discuessed TTC #2. I had a hard first pregnancy as well plus i was worried if i could ever love another child as much as i loved DD.

But i needent have worried. First of all i was lucky enough to have a very easy going pregnancy 2nd time around. But also having a toddler to run around after made the pregnancy go twice as fast and i didn't have half the worries i did the first time around.

When DS was born i was suddenly filled with so much more love and i didn't worry anymore if i could love him as much. it was overwhelming.

With regards to coping. I find it is much easier 2nd time around. Especially once DS turned about 6 months old. DD could interact with him and keep him company so i didnt have to entertain him 24/7 like i had to do when DD was little. DS is now 1 and DD is 3 and they have a ball together playing and keeping each other company, they are never bored. It's easier on me because i actually get to sit down for 5 minutes, at least.

DD was an easy baby too. Slept all night from 4 days old (12hours) and never cried. DS was pretty much the same thankfully. Slept all night (10hrs) from 6 weeks and he's extremely placid.

I found in the beginning, just before we TTC, that i just had to 'take a leap of faith' and trust in myself that we could do this. Once i had DS in my arms, i knew that everything was going to be just fine.