Hi catherine... I believe that the "space" between your children is what is right for your family. Personally, it doesn't matter if they are 11mths apart, or as in my case 10 years apart, your busy doing something, just the something changes - its either nappies, feeding, toddler stuff, or driving and dropping off kids to activities. Between my big kids there is 2y8mths, and it was a good gap...the pregnancy with Nathan was hard, I was tired, and sick, and remember lying on the floor with laura, feeling oh so incredibly ill, and her sitting next to me stroking my head. she had just turned two, beautiful girl. She was such an angel, and was quite happy to eat rice - which was about all I could stomache. When her baby brother was born she loved him to bits, gave me a bit of a hard time, which was to be expected - but was wonderful with him. This time around with Aston, both of my big kids have been fantastic, and have had to make some pretty major adjustments. It was hard to constantly run around for their activities with a newborn, so I had to explain to them that I just couldn't do it all the time. Now that Aston is bigger, we are getting back into more after school activities.

only you and DH can know what is the right gap - as for loving - it just gets bigger and bigger, and you love each one for the little amazing individual that they are. don't over think it hun. what is meant to be, will be.