Thanks so much for your support girls it's so appreciated... I don't know ANYONE with a baby like mine so I do feel quite alone.
Jleigh yep my boy is the same at home... But he's happy to be in a carrier/ sling when we are out and about (walks, shopping etc). And yes I am still trying to convince myself on having another one at all lol but that doesn't change the fact that I love my boy more than anything in this world.
I must say with my little one... I find he is VERY emotional. He feels everything so intensely, like if he is happy he is REALLY happy, sad then REALLY sad, same with angry, excited etc. I wonder if anyone can relate to this with their bub?? I guess our babies just know what they want and how to express that need til they get what they want hehe I think to myself well I know if it were back in the days where we were in the wild then my little monkey would surely e one of the few survivors lol they know how to get what they need which is a good thing too you know!
Also, I'm not sure if anyone knows about/ follows attachment parenting but there is a great book by William sears called "the fussy baby book" which describes what we seem to go through with constant attachment etc (well it hit the nail on the head with Damian)!
... And thanks for suggestion re ergo on back. Must give that a go..
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Last edited by *Danni*; September 28th, 2011 at 03:14 PM.
DS1 is stil very emotional. I think its just some types of people. DS2 wasnt very emotional as a baby but is now and stil would be happy to be held all day every day if anybody was willing but kindy has helped that a bit.
Just got DD to sleep while she lay on the bed with me next to her! We'll see how long she sleeps for though- hope long enough for me to mop the floors
Dannii - DS is VERY emotional as well! That's exactly it! He gets really upset, really quickly, over little things. He's much more gentle and soft than his friends - he doesn't throw his toys, doesn't touch other children, doesn't take things off other children, not into climbing.
We had a play date yesterday and his friend stood near him (he was in his highchair, friend on the floor) and he just LOST it. Every time another child comes near him, he tenses up, gets distraught and clings to me. When he hears our neighbour raise her voice, he tenses up. When another kid 'throws' a toy while playing, not AT him, just away as in 'finished with that, what's next?!' (as all 16 month olds - except DS - do) he hates it. All these things make him clingy for ages afterwards. I feel bad that seeing other children seems so anxiety ridden for him, but I am hoping that by continuing to do it in small doses with me there to support him, he'll gradually improve.
We do a lot of talking about how it's ok to play on the other side of the room without mummy being right there, or it's ok to go 2m away to get a toy and come straight back. We also talk lots about friends and what they do (friends might want to play with a toy you have, they might sit/walk/stand near you, they might even touch you - and all of that is ok) and I always tell him where we're going and who we're going to see, and what kinds of things we could be doing before a play date (mummy might sit down and you might run around on the grass in front of her, mummy might push you on the swing, *insert name* might want to play with your ball and that would be ok because he's your friend etc). He has an awesome understanding of feelings, can sense if someone is upset and empathises very well too. Gee, I think DS is much more than a velcro baby too! But he's my perfect little guy and I wouldn't change him for anything.
DT - DS is usually pretty good in his carseat. We have a fave toy or two in the car, but he now knows he has to put his arm through the seatbelt before he gets it (or swap hands if it's a small toy). I don't do any more than two stops on an outing or getting him back in the carseat can be a hassle. I also make sure he's had at least one chance to walk/move about before he goes back in the car rather than go straight from carseat to stroller to car seat again (though it's rare he goes in the stroller at all!).
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it's so appreciated... I don't know ANYONE with a baby like mine so I do feel quite alone.
lol but that doesn't change the fact that I love my boy more than anything in this world.
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