Dannii - DS is VERY emotional as well! That's exactly it! He gets really upset, really quickly, over little things. He's much more gentle and soft than his friends - he doesn't throw his toys, doesn't touch other children, doesn't take things off other children, not into climbing.

We had a play date yesterday and his friend stood near him (he was in his highchair, friend on the floor) and he just LOST it. Every time another child comes near him, he tenses up, gets distraught and clings to me. When he hears our neighbour raise her voice, he tenses up. When another kid 'throws' a toy while playing, not AT him, just away as in 'finished with that, what's next?!' (as all 16 month olds - except DS - do) he hates it. All these things make him clingy for ages afterwards. I feel bad that seeing other children seems so anxiety ridden for him, but I am hoping that by continuing to do it in small doses with me there to support him, he'll gradually improve.
We do a lot of talking about how it's ok to play on the other side of the room without mummy being right there, or it's ok to go 2m away to get a toy and come straight back. We also talk lots about friends and what they do (friends might want to play with a toy you have, they might sit/walk/stand near you, they might even touch you - and all of that is ok) and I always tell him where we're going and who we're going to see, and what kinds of things we could be doing before a play date (mummy might sit down and you might run around on the grass in front of her, mummy might push you on the swing, *insert name* might want to play with your ball and that would be ok because he's your friend etc). He has an awesome understanding of feelings, can sense if someone is upset and empathises very well too. Gee, I think DS is much more than a velcro baby too! But he's my perfect little guy and I wouldn't change him for anything.

DT - DS is usually pretty good in his carseat. We have a fave toy or two in the car, but he now knows he has to put his arm through the seatbelt before he gets it (or swap hands if it's a small toy). I don't do any more than two stops on an outing or getting him back in the carseat can be a hassle. I also make sure he's had at least one chance to walk/move about before he goes back in the car rather than go straight from carseat to stroller to car seat again (though it's rare he goes in the stroller at all!).