We just rinse out the mess and leave aside until we wash them, we haven't had any stains that didn't come out yet *touch wood*. Using a clothes dryer is only new to us so we don't dry anything that says don't tumble dry. We wash her stuff in normal washing powder, but half the amount. We did use lux flakes initially but it was a pain and left a yucky residue on the washing machine. We use cloth nappies and we just rinse the mess off with water, wring out with hands and then place in bucket and put the lid back on - we find that they do have to be washed within 2 days otherwise they start to go mouldy - blah!