Trust me, it will pass, but you need to make things as easy as possible on yourself in the mean time.
A cleaner could stay out of private areas and just do the kitchen, etc... would that be a workable compromise? Has your DH ever been left with the kids to fend for himself? He really seems to have unrealistic expectations.
I found the same thing as Arcadia when introducing solids, winding it back a bit helped.
I really hope things improve for you - I truly know how hard it is when you're not getting any rest and nothign seems to work
At the moment i am not even sure we could afford a cleaner ontop of my weird obsession with not leaving people alone in my house...

DP has had DD1 on his own when i took DD2 to QLD with me for a wedding and he is more than capable with her (although nothing around the hyouse got done - his excuse it was his only weekend off in 6mths), i would leave DD2 with him but she doesn't settle well and often needs the boob and she wont take EBM even from him.
He had DD1 for 6 nights when she was younger due to a stuff up with my gall bladder removal, he handled that quite well although she had only JUST taken the bottle through NEED and allowing her to scream until hungry, it was very hard for him to go through and i don't want to stuff DD2 around while i can still BF 100%.
I was quite angry my supply dried up due to medical issues with DD1 so don't want to jeopardise it this time.

I'm sorry i keep coming up with brick walls, i have an excuse for everything today i have the attitude i just don't care, both my girls seem to be sick now, DD1 had the most horrible running nose and just fell asleep watching ICE AGE.. she normally has 1 sleep a day and it's not until 1 or after.. so i KNOW she's not well.. argh.
DP an deal with the house being a mess, although he will say DD1 sleeping means i should have done more.. well toooo bad!