Gosh where do i start DD2 is a big girl compaired to her older sister, she's something like 9wks ahead of her weight wise, DD1 was a text book baby fed 4hrly, slept 1-2hrs etc etc
DD2 is STILL feeding 2-3hrly but WAS ok over night, we even had about 2-3 nights where she slept through, the last couple of weeks i have finally gotten her back to self settling during the day, she is normally awake for 1.5-2hrs at a time (sometimes longer) then down for a nap she sleep 30-hr and thats it.
She has spent the last 4 nights in my bed, she has been screaming just wanting to be comforted and i am so so tired and grumpy and just not myself.
DD2 is very clingy, if i leave a room she sooks, she will only go to DP for short periods.
* She does not take a dummy, i have tried but she wont
* She refuses EBM, i have tried multiple teats and aside from buying out a whole factory i'm not sure what else i can try
I am thinking lately she is either
a) teething again - started teething symptoms at just under 4mths old
b) getting some colic - i have tried colic relief and am in the middle of trying infacol
c) HUNGRY, i tried waiting until 6mths especially as she feeds so frequently anyway but have given in and started her on rice ceral, she sits on my knee while i eat most nights and is opening her mouth and trying to take my fork, i think she is ready for more than 1 meal a day.
Had a flat out morning this morning so am thinking of giving her rice cereal while i eat tea and see if that makes a difference.
I honestly don't know what else i am missing, she burps after feeds but i have noticed of a night when she's coming into out bed she is farting A LOT, she isn't an overly spewy child but she does sometimes have a bit of sick... argh i am so so tired and grumpy and DP doesn't get it and doesn't get why the house isn't perfect... he says plenty of women have 2 kids and they do it
I just realised i have not had a weekend/night without either of my girls since DD1 was born (with the exception of a hospital stay when DD1 was little), he just got back from a w/end away with the boys
I am not normally and don't share this info with the girls at MG, it's not me to complain to them but today i did and i was nearly in tears, they can't believe i don't get any me time, i just wish DD2 would take EBM to i can go to the gym or even just escape the house for a while without either of the kids.
Sorry this turned into a vent.. if anyone has any more suggestions as to how i can get her a little calmer and settled would be GREAT.. she has such an amazing smile and people comment all the time.... until i hand her over
Non existent sleep here too - it is awful and certainly changes my ability to cope and be sensible after a while. DH was not great at understanding and still struggles to 'get' how hard it is, mainly bc he doesn't do it.
Similarly the me time only happened after #2 was a bit older and I put my foot down.
I never said much to anyone else as it just made me feel worse, like I was a failure and DH was an insensitive twit.
Take care - the house work will be there when you feel up to it (never here ) and I learnt to do a few emergency meals for the freezer to take the pressure off days/weeks that challenge you.
Perhaps try to get some protected time when you are feeling better and more able to talk to DH. Even if it is one sleep in per fortnight/month whatever that means you are off duty. It is hard with little ones - and sometimes there are no easy/obvious answers. Sorry not much help -take care and one step at a time.
First, you DH needs a reality check.
Your DD2 is obviously quite different to DD1. Based on my limited experience, she sounds quite normal.
I don't think you've missed anything really, I think this is just the way she is. Sometimes the best thing you can do is just go with it, ride it out. Racking your brains to figure out what's 'wrong' and trying every remedy under the sun can leave you even more exhausted than you already were.
Approaching 6 months they often get a spike in separation anxiety, perhaps that's part of it? It'll ease off in time. How is she when you're not around? Could you try a short trip out without the kids as a sort of trial run? She might surprise you and wait very patiently for you to return before demanding milk (or if she's really hungry maybe she'll take the bottle then).
Sounds like you've done a great job of mothering her - she's calm and happy with you. In time the reassurance she derives from you will allow her to feel secure in all situations. If you saw my son today you would not believe the clingy little thing he used to be (I can hardly believe it).
I hope you can figure out a way to get some time out, you do definitely need that.
Couldn't read with out offering some support. You are doing a great job. Your DD obviously feels loved and secure with you. Hoping you get some "me" time soon
Thanks so much everyone, i think i am just so so tried and drained and i know it's normal and each child is different but i hate to see her upset.
I wish i could say 'the dishes will be there when i'm ready' but DP wouldn't accept that and sometimes i think he thinks i am making excuses.
If this is who she is then i love her no matter what, i just wish instead of those horrible pearcing screams she had a nice quiet little girls voice...
What am i missing?
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) and I learnt to do a few emergency meals for the freezer to take the pressure off days/weeks that challenge you.
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