Ellie firstly my commiserations! & *hugs* I know Matilda does similar things, she is intentionally defiant. If we say "No" she will grin & go do it... she is also very determined & strong willed & wants to do everything herself. I know half of her behaviour is due to being 2 1/2 and some other is part of her personality.

We went through a Triple P independant consultant and had some intensive family councilling before the new baby came into the house. She was having intense tantrums including breath holding & forced vomitting before we went to councilling.

I will send you a link to my de-brief through a lot of that behaviour & suggest talking with your MCHN about getting into a Triple P consultant independant of the courses. The Triple P seminars are great, but individually you can go through your particular issues a lot more in depth than you can in the seminars.
Christy's De-Brief..positive update

HTH!