i'm a bit late but agree with the others who've suggested cuddles to adjust but then maybe space them out a little. it's so hard because when i leave DS, i want to be sure that the person respects our wishes as parents but at the same time, i want the time they're looking after DS to be as easy on them as a carer as possible. we're lucky because DP's mum thinks the same way as we do but i have noticed that DP's SIL has complained that after a visit to grandma that they're DS won't sleep by himself because he's been held.
but yeah - at 2am, you need to do whatever works to keep the balance of your household!
I would try.....i stress try....to do more or less what his Mummy and daddy do but if being away from his parents requires him to be held and cuddled.......that's what it takes then. I was nearly going to say 'house rules' but remembered I have an issue about things my MIL does with my boys which erks me!
When I disagree with how I'm raising my child with someone, I remember he is MY child and if someone wants to do something I believe is detrimental to my son, I do not leave him with them.
Cuddling isn't detrimental, but if you're cuddling because you want to rather than because baby needs it - and against parental wishes, then I won't stick up for you. I know you want to do what you believe is best, but I believe cuddling is best and a friend of mine swears by CIO. I just don't let her babysit!
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