i'm a bit late but agree with the others who've suggested cuddles to adjust but then maybe space them out a little. it's so hard because when i leave DS, i want to be sure that the person respects our wishes as parents but at the same time, i want the time they're looking after DS to be as easy on them as a carer as possible. we're lucky because DP's mum thinks the same way as we do but i have noticed that DP's SIL has complained that after a visit to grandma that they're DS won't sleep by himself because he's been held.

but yeah - at 2am, you need to do whatever works to keep the balance of your household!

hope your sister recovers quickly