A friend gave it to me too and I didn't like it at all, plus I did some reading on here and found that there are reasons why it didn't sit right. There was a massive thread Kelly posted but it seems to have been lost in the crossover, but there is THIS website that discusses some of the controversy around it including the fact that his church kicked him out because of his views. It is really difficult when people are so determined but you could post the links with a message like, oh I was doing some research and found this and leave it at that. xoxo
It's not really a case of parents 'choosing' to parent how they want, most of the time that people follow Ezzo's ridiculously unqualified and epmpirically unsound 'advice', it is the first book they've received, or the only time someone has endorsed something for parenting, OR it gets endorsed with promises that it will be easier for them. This last bit is the insidious bit, because it plants in the mind that parenting a baby SHOULD actually be easy for parents and that the baby has to learn to make it easy for them, instead of the other way around! It sets up very unrealistic expectations, and, when the baby fails to produce these results, a lot of disappointment.
For now, all I can think of for intervention, is to read up on Pinky, get Sharon Heller's book The Vital Touch, read some Robin Grille, so that when you are with them and they spout off something that sounds convenient and you know, backed by these real facts, isn't true, you can say "oh, really? Lots of research into child development really proves the opposite. Did Ezzo say what year his research is, just cos it might be a little out of date, like some other breastfeeding advice is" - in a realy friendly way, so that if they actually want to know what his credentials are, they will quickly find that he has none. When you mention an author who actually makes sense, see if you can slip in THEIR credentials, while you're at it
I reckon it's better to plant the seed of knowledge and end up looking like a science geek, than nodding along to this dangerous stuff.
Using Ezzo is not really a true, informed choice on parenting styles. IMO
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