Oh Lea

You have just got two really situations happening in a really unfortunate timing together! ARGH!! My only advice with the food is that if he is happy to pick all day then let him at the moment. Some kids are always like that and even though it mightn't seem like much when you add up all he has eaten it will be more than you think. At least then it's one less battle for you at the moment, you can tackle it when you feel better.

As far as bedtime, goodluck, it's tough I know, and I imagine worse when you are unwell and have MS yourself. We had a run with DD, it eventuall work itself out. But there were some nights when I would literally have to pin her to the bed next to me just to stop her moving and just let her cry. When she showed any sign of quietening of being tired I'd just try to talk to her softly about anything, make up stories talk about what we did, what we will do tomorrow. Once we had her going to sleep next to us we then had to get her to sleep alone. So it's hard, but it will get there eventually.

Goodluck, and make sure you and DH support and help out each other.