That was an excellent post Holly I agree with all you said.
I find it better if I dont go in and comfort Georgia, it just makes her worse and upsets her when I leave. Dh does the settling if it needs it and he does a great job. If she really needs someone DH will go to her but otherwise she is left to cry and that is what is/has worked for us.
Everyone is different and you are the best judge of your baby and his or her needs.