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rania - there are no rules. you just do what works for you. regardless of what you do now, your baby will not be doing it forever. It's ok to feed/hold/rock/sing to sleep. It's ok to sleep with them. Give yiourself (and your baby) a break from teh shoulds and should-nots, especially in teh first 3 months. I imagine myself in my old age - I dont' want to look back with regret, wishing I'd held them more. They are little for such a short time.