i very gently part her labia with my two fingers and wipe the inside gently with a wipe, im sorry but there is NO WAY i am leaving poo in there... as long as you are gentle i think it is better to wipe than to not... besides once she 'discovers herself' you'll realise exactly how gentle you were being, in comparison to her hand poking around down there... (has anyone elses toddler got there hand down there as soon as the nappy comes off???)